Menopause and Your Sex Drive
- Created: March 16, 2011
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Lowered estrogen levels can affect you in many ways. Things like, less interest in sex or a higher threshold for arousal can affect your sex life. Learn how to step up your sex drive during menopause.
Lowered estrogen levels can affect you in many ways. Less interest in sex. A higher threshold for arousal. Decreased vaginal lubrication. Depression or anxiety that inhibits desire. No matter what all the e-mail spam that lands in your mailbox may promise, there isn’t a wonder drug that treats sexual problems in women dealing with menopause. However, (your cue to exhale), there are things you can do to step up sex drive and sexual confidence at this time.
Get in tune with your body by educating yourself on the normal changes associated with aging. Information is available in books, on the web, and direct from your doctor. Sometimes, just understanding what to expect is not only reassuring, it really puts things into perspective.
Re-engage interest by experimenting with erotica. This could be a book, a video, or a fantasy that excites you. Stimulation has a big mental/emotional component for most women. But we often neglect to feed that critical element of desire, especially as we get older.
Reintroduce yourself to the bathtub. A warm, aromatic soak not only relaxes, it feels sensuous. The heat brings blood to the surface (in all parts of your body) and lounging around naked has a way of turning your thoughts towards other pleasures.
Change your sex routine. When was the last time you had sex some place other than the bedroom? When was the last time you were the aggressor? When was the last time you bought an article of clothing with the idea of titillating yourself or your partner? Getting into the mood isn’t always waiting for the mood to strike. Sometimes, a little staging goes a long way.
On the strictly physical front, estrogen replacement can ease vaginal dryness. (Ditto for water-soluble lubricants like Astroglide or K-Y jelly.) And doctors are currently studying whether a combination of estrogen and testosterone (male hormone) are effective for boosting the libido by giving the body a series of chemical signals it experiences when young, fertile and has nature driving it to procreate. Wherever you come out on hormone supplements, it’s important to recognize that desire for sex (at all ages) is closely tied to feeling sexual. And with women, that’s usually a more complicated cocktail than hormonal surges. Crazy as it may sound, women who exercise, dance, engage in massage or encourage a positive self-image tend to feel more sexual about themselves. It’s something to consider if you’re looking around for a little inspiration.
Lastly, (and by no means leastly), increase your physical contact with your partner on a non-coital level. Touching, kissing, caressing, and cuddling have a way of both strengthening your bond and putting you in the mood for sex. Many of us (because of habits or timing or sheer familiarity) forget how powerful those connections can be. Age doesn’t lessen the desire for human contact. And youth doesn’t have a monopoly on its influence.menopause sex